We are all familiar with the pain and hurt that can result from the loss of a relationship. We know there are many ways that we can heal that kind heartbreak. But what about the kind of pain that can result from a relationship that didn’t grow to fruition?
Take a look at your own love. If it is one-sided, ask yourself if you are willing to let it go and move on, or do you want to do what it takes to make it work.
If you want to make it work, here are a few tips that may help:
- It’s not your fault
If you have fallen in love with someone who doesn’t feel the same, you may want to find fault with yourself. Don’t do that to yourself! Don’t tell yourself that there is something wrong with you. It’s the situation, not you. You are in a situation you can not control.
- How do you feel?
Ask yourself how you really feel. Have a conversation with your inner-self and answer honestly, do you want to pursue this unrequited love? Decide honestly and only when you are sure about your feelings, move ahead.
- Communication is key
If you have decided to move forward with your feelings, keep the lines of communication open. You need to talk or otherwise communicate with your beloved regularly. Don’t appear desperate or nagging, but do make sure they know you are there.
- Be a good friend
Before you jump into a relationship, make sure that you are a good friend to them. First shore up your friendship with trust and honesty. When they see you as a good friend, it will be easier for them to extend that trust into a romance.
- Don’t make it an obsession.
Don’t become overly involved with your one-sided love. Don’t let it take over your whole life. Be ready to make some boundaries. Once you have made your love known, don’t let that person take over your life. Don’t let yourself be blinded by your feelings and be taken advantage of.
- Let them see the best in you
Be your sure of yourself and be true to yourself. By showing your best side, you are letting them know how worthy you are.
- Show care and respect
If you want your love returned, you have to show respect in all areas of yours and their life. Show them an appropriate amount of love and care so they see you real value.
- Be present for the one you love.
Make yourself available for the one you love, even in the bad times. Be supportive at all times. Make sure you are where you are needed to be present for your partner.
Above all, remember that you can’t be the only one in a relationship. Even if it starts out as a one-sided love, it doesn’t have to stay that way. Make sure your love knows that you are willing to make things work.